Dear Wendy and Wanda,
What should I do when I run out of swipes on Tinder?
Loveena Hopeful Place
If you haven’t already, I would advise downloading Coffee Meets Bagel and Hinge–both of which have been extremely conducive to helping me meet people that won’t waste my time. While I do find interesting people on Tinder, I think Coffee Meets Bagel and Hinge allows me to screen the people that I wouldn’t normally be able to on Tinder. I must warn you that Coffee Meets Bagel and Hinge both have limited numbers of likes as well, but if you’re running out of likes on Tinder, maybe it’s time to cool it and focus your energy towards other things. I’m all for doing what you can to find someone fun to talk to, but I think I date most efficiently when I’m at my most confident–which is when I’m churning out deliverables on a weekly basis. Also, quick tip: choose pictures that exude the kind of features that you would want a partner to see in you. For instance, I chose a picture of me reading, a picture of me in Clapp looking at a computer screen, and a picture of me at my house’s garden. Just a thought. Hope it goes swimmingly!
There was a time when I had Tinder Gold (my ex got it for me as a joke), and honestly, it helped with the whole limited likes problem. So, you could try that, but, in my opinion, the best way to maximize the utility out of your likes is to just swipe to your hearts content on every dating app you can get yourself onto. I’m on Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, Bumble…I even was able to squeeze my way onto the League for a little (but that gave me a weird vibe). Tinder and Bumble have a lot of efficient swiping interfaces–my thumbs get tired sometimes, but it’s worth it. How else am I supposed to connect with people across Wellesley that I don’t see that often? It’s also cool to see what kind of locals live around Wellesley…a JP Licks date is not half bad, by the way.